Self love

Self Love

Most often self love and self care are used interchangeably as if they are the same thing. Even though you wouldn’t have self love without self care, self love is a lifelong journey that requires consistent nurturing. Self love entails cultivating an attitude of gratitude and acceptance of your physical body and emotionally well being.  

When you truly love who you are, just the way you are, right now, you will discover a divine and magnificent part of you. And be able to thrive in the full essence of your power as a wonderful being that you were created to be. Here are a few ways you can practice self love, today and everyday afterwards.

Take care of your body  

Our bodies are a sanctuary that is meant to carry us day by day throughout our life time. So if you haven’t already,  start nurturing and loving your physical body through all the changes. 

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Find ways to feel and be grateful for your body. Embrace every flaw and imperfection with love. Because in doing so you will allow yourself to find beauty in the imperfection.  You will start to feel comfortable in your own skin. Which will allow you experience joy, happiness, love and freedom. 

Take the time to celebrate and take care of  your body. This can be in small ways like, not wearing heels because they make your feet hurt afterwards. Or drinking an extra glass of water because it will do good to your skin. Or doing a ten minutes workout.

When you find what works for you make it a habit. If you are consistent, you will start experiencing a deeper sense of self appreciation. And accept yourself regardless of all the imperfections.

Self compassion   

Be kind, gentle and patient with yourself, like you would to a special friend.  When you practice self compassion, you allow yourself to go through hard times with a sense of resilience. Knowing that no matter what happens you will handle it and come out stronger.

For example if you are grieving, it’s okay to be sad because that is part of life, accept it and believe that you will nature yourself back to full strength. If you have failed in something, take responsibility for the failure and learn from it. Remembering not to blame yourself because no one is perfect.

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Praise yourself

Celebrate and praise yourself for your achievements however small you may consider them to be. This doesn’t mean bragging or going around boasting about your talents or victories. Rather, it means acknowledging your positive qualities and being self aware.

For example, if you got a promotion at work, celebrate that. Or if you have been feeling low lately but have managed to get out of bed, took a shower and dressed nicely, this is a win, complement yourself for it. Just find small ways to tell yourself ‘thanks and well done’.

Also change the way you think about yourself. What we tell ourselves affects how we see the world around us. When you start feeding your mind positive thoughts, the world around you changes for the better.

Forgive yourself 

It’s a given, at some point in our lives we make mistakes, some big, some small. Forgiving does take a day or two but you can make today the beginning of your journey. You will  need to show yourself compassion, understanding and empathy to be able to let go and heal.

Be patient with yourself because forgiveness is a process. You will hurt, get angry, cry but eventually you will find that place of peace, peace so strong that even the things that once hurt will serve into making you better. 

There are so many different ways to practice self love but I will leave you these and hope it makes a difference in how you love yourself.

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20 Replies to “Self love”

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    Cristina Petrini says: 19 February, 2020 at 7:20 am

    Someone once told me that our body is a temple and that we must take care of it to take care of its soul as well. Reading your blog post you reminded me of it.

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    Teeara Ida says: 19 February, 2020 at 1:52 pm

    Forgiving yourself! I love that one I need to work on that more because sometimes I’m really hard on myself

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    Lara | Grits in the City says: 19 February, 2020 at 2:55 pm

    Self love is so important to prioritize. Can be in such little ways that still have such a big impact on your happiness.

    1. Mercy
      Mercy says: 19 February, 2020 at 7:52 pm

      Yes it does have an impact on your happiness. Thank you Lara.

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    Kmac says: 19 February, 2020 at 3:15 pm

    I feel like I struggle the most with forgiving myself and being patient. I feel like we all focus so much on forgiving others but we definitely do need to forgive ourselves to fully heal. I am grateful for this post as It helped me to recenter and reflect on how I have been treating myself.

    1. Mercy
      Mercy says: 19 February, 2020 at 7:54 pm

      Most of the times we try so much to forgive others, which is important as well but we have to forgive ourselves too. I’m glad you for this helpful. Thank you.

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    Jay Aguirre says: 19 February, 2020 at 3:23 pm

    It is definitely so important to take care of ourselves! Our bodies, our minds, everything about us. Thanks for the reminder of what we should always put first!

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    Ivelisse Estes says: 19 February, 2020 at 4:32 pm

    Being more self aware is definitely something that I have been working on, especially after getting married! I do need to take more time to appreciate all my body does for me as well.

    1. Mercy
      Mercy says: 24 February, 2020 at 8:24 am

      Yes girl, it is journey, one step at a time. Thank you.

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    Catherine says: 19 February, 2020 at 5:32 pm

    All beautiful reminders but forgiveness is key. We can be so hard on ourselves sometimes and get so caught up in the comparison game. Thank you for sharing these thoughts with us.

    1. Mercy
      Mercy says: 24 February, 2020 at 8:23 am

      Hi Catherine, Comparison is a monster, especially with social media. I’m working on taming that part of me that wants to compare herself with anyone but my yesterday self.Thank you.

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    Ashley R says: 19 February, 2020 at 7:13 pm

    Praising yourself is a huge one. I have a hard time with this. My parents weren’t big on words of affirmation or feelings so its something I’m learning.

    1. Mercy
      Mercy says: 24 February, 2020 at 8:22 am

      We learn a lot in adulthood. It’s all about self discovery. Thank you for sharing.

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    Yeah Lifestyle says: 19 February, 2020 at 9:39 pm

    Is is so much more easier to love others and do things for others than ourselves, but we must remember to take care of ourselves first or we won’t be able to do the same for others

    1. Mercy
      Mercy says: 24 February, 2020 at 8:20 am

      I now look at it as pouring from an empty cup. have got to fill my cup first before I’m able to real love others. Thank you.

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    Nati says: 19 February, 2020 at 9:51 pm

    Self love did not come to my life until my late 30s. I must say in total honesty, my life has changed so much and I feel like a new person just loving myself for who I am. It’s exactly the way you put it here!

    1. Mercy
      Mercy says: 24 February, 2020 at 8:18 am

      Hi Nati, Same here I didn’t know much about self love until late into my 20’s and I have to say I’m loving the new person I am becoming. 🙂

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    kumamonjeng says: 20 February, 2020 at 6:09 am

    We should take good care of ourselves before we can look after our loved ones and others. I agree we should be treating ourselves nicely and give affirmation and praise.

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    Diana says: 10 March, 2020 at 3:07 pm

    I am a firm believer of self-love and self-care because we always tend to be so harsh on ourselves — we need a self check-in every now and then. Thank you for the reminder!

    1. Mercy
      Mercy says: 11 March, 2020 at 8:26 am

      Thank you. Yes we should make it a constant thing.

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