By: Mercy

Five years ago I made a decision to start selling handmade dresses that I was making. Up until that time, making dresses was something I had only done for myself as a hobby. I had no professional training, I had zero experience using a sewing machine, all I had was the desire to learn and pursue a dream. So when I decided to start selling my work I went through various forms of fear. I was so afraid of how it would turn out that for a moment I thought of not doing it. 

The fear of rejection was so gripping and so real. But in all that fear I decide to weigh my options.  I like making lists, so I made a list of what could go wrong and all that could go well. And the good outweighed the bad. Since then I have used this method to help me when I’m thinking of starting something new.  I thought it might be of help to you too. So here it is.

Making a listing

Make a list of the bad things that can happen and all the good things that can happen. If the good outweigh the bad then maybe you have a better shot at that new thing than you thought. 


Is this new thing a priority or it’s of low importance? Can you move or re-schedule things in your life to make time for it?  How will it affect your professional and personal life? 

If you can comfortably answer these questions positively then, then again you may have a better shot than you thought. 

Make a commitment

Once you’ve made a decision to pursue your new adventure, make a practical commitment. Something that you can keep up with. If that means accomplishing  just ten minutes of work a day, then do that consistently. For example on my clothing side hustle, part of my week can look  something like this

  • Monday – Cut fabric 
  • Tuesday – Pin the fabric together  
  • Wednesday – Sew the top bit of the dress
  • Thursday – Sew the bottom bit of the dress
  • Friday – Finish the dress
  • Saturday – Iron & package
  • Monday – go to post office

Mistakes & Failure

I think one of the things that stop people from reaching their potential (myself included) is the fear of failure and the fear of making a mistake.  One of my sisters recently wrote an article on mistakes and I couldn’t agree more with her when she wrote that  “mistakes are unavoidable when you are still learning to master the skills you need in order to succeed. ”

 And as Susan Jeffers say  “If you haven’t made any mistakes lately, you must be doing something wrong”

So be open to the possibility of failing and making a mistake. Most successful experts became experts because they had to make mistakes and fail before they could master their craft. So do not let fear hold you back (note to self)

Evaluate your strength and weakness

Being aware of your weakness and strength will make you aware of your strong point and weak point. Also self awareness can be an empowering thing because it gives a better understanding of what quality you need to improve on and what qualities are going to help you towards reaching your goals. 

6 Replies to “fear”

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    Lisa says: 10 July, 2020 at 9:13 pm

    Lists give us a plan, even if we don’t always stick to the list it gives us vision and structure. I love the way you break down making a dress, it doesn’t look as an overwhelming task as it would sitting down to make it all on one go. Such an inspiring post, thank you.

    1. Mercy
      Mercy says: 12 July, 2020 at 9:03 am

      Hi Lisa,
      Thank you very much for sharing 🙂 yes breaking it down makes it much easier.

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    Tabitha says: 11 July, 2020 at 11:43 am

    Absolutely loved this and I didn’t even realise I needed this encouragement.. Thank you for sharing ❤️

    1. Mercy
      Mercy says: 12 July, 2020 at 9:04 am

      Hi Tabitha,
      Thank you very much for sharing, I needed this reminder myself 🙂

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    Zoe Hamers says: 23 November, 2020 at 12:47 pm

    Thank you very much, Mercy…your tips are very helpful.

    1. Mercy
      Mercy says: 24 November, 2020 at 1:04 pm

      Thanks for reading Zoe, I’m glad you found this helpful ♡♡

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